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何为幸福

何为幸福 

她比他小
20岁,嫁给他的时候,家乡的人都以为她傍上大款。只有她知道,他到底是一个什么样的男人。                                                        
  他只是一个普通的男人,黑,丑,一口黄牙。媒人当初可没这么说,只说是个过日子的男人,就因为家里穷给耽搁了,一直没找上媳妇。那阵子,没找上媳妇的都去
……
花几千元就可以找来。那男人也托人带一个回来,这就是她,一个死了丈夫的女人。                                        
  媒人说男人富着呢,靠手艺吃饭。女人因为急于逃离那个家庭,问都没问男人会什么手艺就嫁过来了。过来后才知道,他的手艺就是在外面风吹雨淋地修鞋,再加上男人长得丑陋,让她有种上当的感觉。回去,已无退路,婆家人叫她丧门星,说是她克死了丈夫。                                                              
  再婚后,男人很宠她,隔三岔五给她买些小玩意来,一盒粉饼,一支口红,几串荔枝……她长到30岁,从来没有用过口红,更不用说吃荔枝了,很快,她就觉得自己比杨贵妃还要幸福,吃荔枝的时候,男人不吃,只是傻傻地看着她吃。她说你也    
吃。他说我不爱吃它,看着你吃我就高兴。后来,她偶然上街,随口问了一下  
荔枝的价格,吓一跳,竟然要201斤。她的眼睛一下湿润了,他怎么可能不爱吃荔  
?他是舍不得吃呀。                                                        
  她更加疼他,早晨早早起来给他做饭,晚上做好热乎乎的饭菜等他回来;冬天的时候,男人在街上修鞋,一天下来,冻得全身冰冷,女人就把男人的脚放到自己怀里暖着。男人也很知足,说是上辈子修来的福才会娶到她,他为什么50岁还没有结婚,就为等她呗。说得女人心花�放�?/SPAN>                                            
  女人见男人每天那么累很心疼,她说给我买台机器吧,我和你一块修鞋去。
男人不答应,说他挣的钱足够养活她,可女人认真了,偏要去。于是街上总能看到一对老夫少妻在修鞋,两个人紧挨着,有鞋修的时候,两个人就一起动手,空闲时,就有说有笑地聊着。冬天刮大风,女人的手都冻红了,耳朵也冻得青一块紫一块,这  
时,男人买来一块烤红薯,红薯散发着诱人的香味。男人剥开,用嘴吹着,却不吃,他把红薯放到女人嘴边,女人幸福地咬一口,又吹一吹,让男人吃。他们一人一口地吃着,好象享受一顿美食,好象吃着爱情的圣餐。                              
  有一天,男人对女人说总有一天,我会走在你前面。女人就哭了,说  
我和你一起去。男人说不行!’然后男人又说我们现在的钱还不是很多,再挣几年,给你养老应该没问题。还有,我给你在地里种了500棵树,等有一天我去了,你也不能动了,那500棵树也长大了,我相信它们能够养活你。‘ 女人扑到男人怀里哭了。500棵树,那只是500棵树吗?这一辈子从没有人替她这样想过,可这个男人甚至为她想到老年,她觉得这辈子真是值了。现在城里人兴什么夫妻树、爱情树,而她的男人给她种的树要比那些树珍贵一万倍,那是一片夫妻同心树。            

Be Thankful for what you have

Effective Communication

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: ‘I am blind, please help.’ There were only a few coins in the hat.

                                                                                                                                                             
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, ‘Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?’


The man said, ‘I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.’
What he had written was: ‘Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.’

Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?

Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

 

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

Invite others towards good with wisdom. Live life with no excuse and love with no regrets. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

Great men say, ‘Life has to be an incessant process of repair and reconstruction, of discarding evil and developing goodness. In the journey of life, if you want to travel without fear, you must have the ticket of a good conscience.’

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling!!
And even more beautiful, knowing that you are the reason behind it!

 

快乐的钥匙

A meaningful article to share….

快乐的钥匙

  一天,我和一位朋友去报摊上买报纸,朋友礼貌地对报贩说了声谢谢,但报贩却是满脸冷漠,一点儿礼节性的回应也没有。
  ”这家伙态度很差,是不是?”我们拿好报纸继续向前走去,我按捺不住问我的朋友。
   “他每天晚上都是这样的。”朋友说。
  ”哦!那么你为什么还是对他那么客气? “我有些不解。
  朋友侧过头来看了看我,脸上带着一种让人感觉很舒畅的笑容,反过来问我:”为什么我要让他决定我的行为?为什么要让别人的情绪来影响自己的情绪呢? ”
  是啊!我们每个人心中都有一把”快乐的钥匙” ,但我们却常在不知不觉中把它交给别人掌管。
  一位女士抱怨道:”我活得很不快乐,因为先生常出差不在家。”她是把快乐的钥匙放在她先生的手里。
  一位妈妈说:”我的孩子不听话,让我很生气!”她是将钥匙交在她孩子的手中。
  一个男人可能说:”上司不赏识我,所以我情绪低落。”他把快乐钥匙塞在他的领导手里。
  婆婆说: “我的媳妇一点也不孝顺,我真命苦!”
  媳妇说:”我的公婆为什么好像总不满意我的表现呢?”
  有人会为窗外的噪声烦躁不已;
  有人会为脚下的垃圾大骂出声;
  有人会为连天的阴雨情绪低落;
  有人会为夏日的酷阳紧锁眉头……
  这些人都做了相同的决定,就是让别人让身外的东西来控制自己的心情;都将本来可以属于自己掌管的快乐的钥匙,在不知不觉中交了出去。
  当我们容许别人掌控我们的情绪时,我们便觉得自己是受害者,于是,抱怨与愤怒成为我们惟一的选择。我们开始怪罪他人,并且传达一个信息:”我这样痛苦,都是你造成的,你要为我的痛苦负责! ”
  这样的人,容易使别人不喜欢接近,甚至望而生畏。这样的人,难以从自然中去寻求自然的快乐,甚至本来可以让人愉悦的东西,也变成了他忧郁的源泉。
  一个成熟的人,应该能握住自己快乐的钥匙。
  我们应该不要期待别人使自己快乐,反而应该尽可能地将自己的快乐与幸福带给周围的人。我们不要奢望自然会将快乐自动地奉献到我们的手里,我们要学会从自然中去寻找发掘出自然的快乐。
  假若我们这般做到了,那么,我们的这个世界,就是一个阳光灿烂的世界,就会有了更多的快乐与幸福。
  我们身处的地方,不论是环境、人、事、物,都很容易影响我们的情绪,
 
别忘了,决定快乐的钥匙,只在你自己 手中

 Why Ladies today are still single?

  1.  The nice men are ugly.

 2.  The handsome men are not nice.

 3.  The handsome and nice men are gay.

 4.  The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.

 5.  The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have No money.

 6.  The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.

 7. The handsome men without money are after our money.

 8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don’t think we are beautiful enough.

 9.  The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.

10.   The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!!

11.   The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.

NOW, WHO THE HELL UNDERSTANDS MEN?

 ”Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes, and it’s our  job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you’d like to have dinner with.”

Been a while….

It’s been a while since i posted. few mths, lots of thing happen, most of it were happy moments.

1_321715638lmy little nephew- our Wong family new prince was born. He took all my parent’s attention, until they sometime forgot they still have a younger daughter in KL… We all adore him like our king, he got watever he want. :)

1_194117047lHe is 5 mths plus now, starting to learn how to speak. He is a super talkative and active boy. although most of the time we don’t understand what he trying to say, but we still happily ‘talk’ to him. ‘R we nuts? hope no1 will think we are weirdo…’

1_984474386l1His grandpa, my dad become a soft man in front of him. Dad change xuan’s diaper, feed him, play with him, take him to bed. We seldom have chance to hold the baby too long, as the my dad, the grandpa will take him away from us… sigh… but the baby love grandpa to hold him the most, as my dad got a huge hand and warm hug that make the baby so confortable.

I miss the prince… soon.. i will go back and play with him lo :)

父母

媳婦說:
煮淡一點妳就嫌沒有味,現在煮鹹一點妳卻說咽不下,
妳究竟想怎麼樣 ?」
母親一見兒子回來,二話不說便把飯菜往咀裡送。 
她怒瞪他一眼。
他試了一口,馬上吐出來,
兒子說:「 我不是說過了嗎,媽有病不能吃太鹹!」
那好!媽是你的,以後由你來煮!」
媳婦怒氣沖沖地回房。
 
兒子無奈地輕嘆一聲,然後對母親說:
媽,別吃了,我去煮個麵給妳。」
仔,你是不是有話想跟媽說,是就說好了,別憋在心裡
媽,公司下個月升我職,我會很忙,
至於老婆,她說很想出來工作,所以 ….
母親馬上意識到兒子的意思:
仔,不要送媽去老人院。」
聲音似乎在哀求。 兒子沉默片刻,他是在尋找更好的理由。   
 
媽,其實老人院並沒有甚麼不好,妳知道老婆一但工作,
一定沒有時間好好服侍妳。老人院有吃有住有人服侍照顧,不是比在家裡好得多嗎?」
「可是,阿財叔他 ….
 
洗了澡,草草吃了一碗速食麵,兒子便到書房去。他茫然地佇立於窗前,有些猶豫不決。母親年輕便守寡,含辛茹苦將他撫養成人,供他出國讀書。但她從不用年輕時的犧牲當作要脅他孝順的籌碼,反而是妻子以婚姻要脅他!
真的要讓母親住老人院嗎?仔問自己,他有些不忍。
 
可以陪你下半世的人是你老婆,難道是你媽嗎?」
阿財叔的兒子總是這樣提醒他
 
你媽都這麼老了,好命的話可以活多幾年,為何不趁這幾年好好孝順她呢?樹欲靜而風不息,子欲養而親不在啊 !」親戚總是這樣勸他。兒子不敢再想下去,深怕自己真的會改變初衷。
 
夕晚,太陽收斂起灼熱的金光,躲在山後憩息。一間建在郊外山崗的一座貴族老人院。是的,錢用得越多,兒子才心安理得。當兒子領著母親步入大廳時,嶄新的電視機,42吋的螢幕正播放著一部喜劇, 但觀眾一點笑聲也沒有。 幾個衣著一樣,髮型一樣的老嫗歪歪斜斜地坐在梳化上,神情呆滯而有一個老人在自言自語,有個正緩緩彎下腰,想去撿掉在地上的一塊餅乾吃。
 
兒子知道母親喜歡光亮,所以為她選了一間陽光充足的房間。從窗口望出去,樹蔭下,一片芳草如茵。幾名護士推著坐在輪椅的老者在夕陽下散步,四周悄然寂靜得令人心酸。
縱是夕陽無限好,畢竟已到了黃昏,他心中低低嘆息。    
 
媽,我……..我要走了 !」
母親只能點頭。他走時,母親頻頻揮手,她張著沒有牙的嘴,蒼白乾燥的咀唇在囁嚅著,一副欲語還休的樣子。
兒子這才注意到母親銀灰色的頭髮,深陷的眼窩以及打著細紋臉。母親,真的老了!
 
他霍然記起一則兒時舊事。那年他才6歲,母親有事回鄉,不便攜他同行,於是把他寄住在阿財叔家幾天。
母親臨走時,他驚恐地抱著母親的腿傷心大聲號哭道:
媽媽不要丟下我!媽媽不要走!」 
 
最後母親沒有丟下他。
他連忙離開房間,順手把門關上,不敢回頭,深恐那記憶像鬼魅似地追纏而來。 
 
他回到家,
妻子與岳母正瘋狂的把母親房裡的一切扔個不亦樂乎。
身高3呎的獎杯──那是他小學作文比賽「我的母親」第1名的勝利品!
華英字典── 那是母親整個月省吃省用所買給他的第一份生日禮物!還有母親臨睡前要擦的風濕油,沒有為她擦,帶去老人院又有甚麼意義呢? 
 
夠了,別再扔了!」兒子怒吼道。
﹝這麼多垃圾,不把它扔掉,怎麼放得下我的東西﹞。
岳母沒好氣地說。
 
就是嘛!你趕快把你媽那張爛床給抬出去,
我明天要為我媽添張新的 !」
 
一堆童年的照片展現在兒子眼前,那是母親帶他到動物園和遊樂園拍的照片。 
 
它們是我媽的財產,一樣也不能丟!」 
 
你這算甚態度?對我媽這麼大聲,我要你向我媽道歉!」   
 
我娶妳就要愛妳的母親,為甚麼妳嫁給我就不能愛我的母親?
 
雨後的黑夜分外冷寂,街道蕭瑟,行人車輛格外稀少。
一輛寶馬在路上飛馳,頻頻闖紅燈,陷黃格,呼一聲又飛馳而過。那輛轎車一路奔往山崗上的那間老人院,停車直奔上樓,推開母親臥房的門。
他幽靈似地站著,母親正撫摸著風濕痛的雙腿低泣。
她見到兒子手中正拿著那瓶風濕油,顯然感到安慰的說:
媽忘了帶,幸好你拿來
他走到母親身邊,跪了下來。
 
很晚了,媽自己擦可以了,你明天還要上班,回去吧!」 
 
他囁嚅片刻,終於忍不住啜泣道
「媽,對不起,請原諒我!我們回家去吧 !」 
 
∼∼後語∼∼ 
 
隨著自己愈長大,看著父母親臉龐從年輕變憔悴,
頭髮從烏絲變白髮,動作從迅捷變緩慢,多心疼!
 
父母親總是將最好、最寶貴的留給我們,像蠟燭不停的燃燒自己,照亮孩子!
而我呢?有沒有騰出一個空間給我的父母,或者只是在當我需要停泊岸時, 才會想起他們……
其實父母親要的真的不多,
只是一句隨意的問候:爸、媽,你們今天好嗎?」
隨意買的宵夜,煮一頓再普通不過的晚?#92;,
睡前幫他們?#92;?#92;被子,
天冷幫他們添衣服、戴手套……
都能讓他們高興溫馨很久。
 
有時,我常在想:我希望我的子女以後如何對我。
那現在,我有沒有如此對待我的父母?
我相信,人是環環相扣的;現在,你如何對待你的父母;
以後,你的子女就如何待你。
 
朋友,人世間最難報的就是父母恩,
願我們都能:以反哺之心奉敬父母,以恩之心孝順父母! 
 
∼共勉之∼
 
生命不要求我們成為最好的,只要求我們作最大的努力!
老人安養院牆上發現的一篇文章 
孩子!當你還很小的時候,我花了很多時間,教你慢慢用湯匙、用筷子吃東西。教你繫鞋帶、扣扣子、溜滑梯、教你穿衣服、梳頭髮、擰鼻涕。 這些和你在一起的點點滴滴,是多麼的令我懷念不已。
所以,當我想不起來,接不上話時,請給我一點時間,等我一下,讓我再想一想……極可能最後連要說什麼,我也一併忘記。
孩子! 你忘記我們練習了好幾百回,才學會的第一首娃娃歌嗎?是否還記得每天總要我絞盡腦汁,去回答不知道你從哪裡冒出來的嗎?所以,當我重覆又重覆說著老掉牙的故事,哼著我孩提時代的兒歌時,體諒我。
讓我繼續沉醉在這些回憶中吧!切望你,也能陪著我閒話家常吧!
孩子,現在我常忘了扣扣子、繫鞋帶。吃飯時,會弄髒衣服,梳頭髮時手還會不停的抖,不要催促我,要對我多一點耐心和溫柔,只要有你在一起,就會有很多的溫暖湧上心頭。
孩子!如今,我的腳站也站不穩,走也走不動。所以,請你緊緊的握著我的手,陪著我,慢慢的。就像當年一樣,我帶著你一步一步地走。 
若為人子女也不懂得如何體諒他們,
那他們便只能於痛苦中渡過餘生,黑暗中逝去…. 

this is  a meaningful 10 things we shd do in our life….i plug it from some where else… enjoy

1。遇到你真的爱的人时,要努力的争取和他相处下去,因为当他离去时,一切都来不及了

2。 遇到可相信的朋友时,要好好和他相处,因为在人的一生中,能遇到的知己不多

3。遇到人生中的贵人时,要记得好好感激,因为他是你人生的转折点

4。 遇到曾经爱过的人,记得微笑向他感激,因为他是让你更懂得爱的人

5。遇到曾经恨过的人,要微笑向他打招呼,因为他让你更加的坚强

6。遇到曾经背叛你的人时,跟他好好聊一聊。因为若不是他今天你也不会懂这个世界

7。 遇到曾经偷偷喜欢的人时,要祝他幸福,因为你喜欢他时,不是希望他幸福快乐吗??

8。遇到匆匆离开你人生的人时,要谢谢他走过你的人生,因为他是你精彩回忆的一部分。。

9。遇到曾经和你有误会的人时,要趁现在解清误会,因为你可能只有这一次的机会解释清楚

10。遇到现在和你相伴一生的人,要百分百的感谢他爱昵,因为你们现在都得到幸福和真爱。。
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Nice Port Dickson Trip

Nice Port Dickson Trip (7 Nov- 8 Nov)

 

We had a great PD trip… the chicken wings was yummy; the curry chicken n meehoon from Jolene’s mum was great. The people are funny and crazy… we had so much fun& laughs in this trip. Although we still have small minor problem … cant mentioned it here, its secret. Haha….

 

Really need to salute to our organizer- Chris, Eric and Jolene. U guys are rock! I enjoyed the trip very much, even though someone did try so hard to get us drunk. But unfortunately, me n ccl are tough. Please train urself b4 u wanna challenge us lo… kekeke

Nose Bleed ….

Hmmm… I had a nose bleed 2 days continuously. 1st time in my 26 years of life having nose bleed. It’s scary to see so many bloods came out from your nose. It makes u worried whether you have any hidden sickness. 

Some  of my colleagues are panic when see my nose bleed. Luckily doctor said it cause by the heat of my body. I’m learn that, we shouldn’t blow out the bloods, have to press your nose for 5 mins, so that it will stop bleeding.

Recently I keep on fallen sick, Vivian already called me sick baby. I think I really have became sick baby la L Really need to take good care of my body from today onwards….

So people, no more yamcha at night, no more drinking session, no more movie or any form of entertainment… until im fully recover. But… my recent schedule have been fully book until end of Nov ler…

People, tell me what to do… bday celebration cannot say NO, holiday outing definitely is ON,  meet up Sammy cannot postpone, colleague’s wedding definitely have to attend….. SHIT… sounds like I cant rest lo.

But, strictly NO yamcha for the month of November lo… Don’t u dare to invite me yamcha, if my nose bleed again, u have to bare the consequences… :p   

season of sick …

it’s the season of fallen sick…. and im one of the victim :( running nose, light fever… bone pain pain. AND… i still need to work. Did i heard someone say MC… Darling O darling, m too bz to get a rest, do u think i can get a MC n rest at home… It’s a NO NO la…  :(

how wish im staying with my parent, so that they can cook me the porridge, bring me to doctor,place the wet towel on my forehead, kiss me n make me sleep. And i can manja with them…. how wish i can be with them right now.

Sob sob… but sad to say…this is the price we need to pay for being an independent adult… NO More manja.

Hope the sick virus can loss to my body’s antibiotik worriors…. How wish….

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